7 Relationship Problems You Should Stop Arguing About

Posted by: tosin on July 20, 2014

As a marriage counselor, I see all sorts of couples in my office. They come to me with problems ranging from infidelity to not putting the cap back on the toothpaste. When they decide to go to marriage counseling, most couples have decided that their problems are so big that they need to get it sorted out — or else. However, there are a lot of problems couples have that aren’t really problems at all. They’re small enough that it’s not really worth the argument.

Seven Problems You Should Stop Arguing About
1. No s*x
As I said in another article, s*x is a healthy and important part of marriage. So it’s no wonder when couples fight about it — especially when they aren’t having it. The truth is, fighting about s*x is just making sure that it doesn’t happen for a while. Besides, lots of people have “dry spells”. Instead of sulking or arguing about it, try talking it through with your partner. Tell them exactly what you’re mad about and offer suggestions of what you both can do differently. Like I said, s*x is an important part of marriage so if it’s not happening much (or at all), then you may have some hard discussions ahead. But, just getting turned down once in a while is not a good reason for an argument.
2. My partner wants to have s*x all the time
Physical intimacy is the one thing that sets you and your partner apart from being roommates. Because of this, s*x is an important part of your marriage. It’s a unique way that you and your partner can express love, passion and romance that you can’t express with just anyone. So why complain when your partner wants to be intimate? It’s a great way to express love to each other. And it’s a lot more fun than browsing Facebook at night.
3. He or she doesn’t put the cap back on the toothpaste
I’ve never met someone who has divorced because their partner didn’t put the cap on the toothpaste. But I have seen plenty of couples argue about it (or something like it) over and over again. The truth is, it’s really not that big of a relationship violation and if it’s not worth divorcing about, it’s probably not really worth arguing about, either.
4. He doesn’t treat me like a princess
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In the dating world, men are responsible to do everything. They’re supposed to be the ones to ask the girl out, they’re suppose to pay for the date and they’re supposed to treat their girl like a chivalrous knight in shining armor would. And if he does all this right, he gets rewarded with another date with her. Unfortunately, these unrealistic expectations set in the dating world don’t apply very well in marriage. A marriage is a partnership and expecting to be treated like a princess is expecting your husband to be a servant. Neither of these roles will work long-term in your marriage.
5. I shouldn’t have to ask — my partner should just know
In the business world, everyone knows you should communicate openly with your team — even over-communicate if possible. But there’s an unspoken expectation in marriage that you shouldn’t have to tell your partner what you want. If they really loved you, they would just know. Then, they should work their hardest to give you what you want. Instead of asking your partner to be “in tune” enough with you to know what you want, openly communicate your expectations just like you would at work. It’s a romantic idea that your partner magically knows what you want. It’s also a false one that has caused too many unnecessary arguments.
6. Who started it
“Well, I wouldn’t have done X if you wouldn’t have done Y.” I hate to break it to you, but just because your spouse did X, that doesn’t give you permission to do Y. In other words, you’re just as responsible for doing Y regardless of what your spouse did. Because of this, it doesn’t matter who started it. Each spouse is equally to blame. So, stop fighting about who started it and work together to try to find an ending to it.
7. Who said or did what and when
Remember at that Christmas party when your spouse did that one thing that really embarrassed you or made you angry? Well, it’s time to bury the hatchet and get over it. Fighting about things from the past will never do any good because you can’t go back in time and re-do them. Instead, focus on things in the present and what you can do today to repair the damage. Ask for specific things that will help you feel healed (see number 5 above) and give your spouse the opportunity to show you that he or she will do it.
These seven things are some of the most common arguments that happen in marriage. They’re also some of the most unnecessary ones. And, they usually cause a lot of hurt. When you stop these arguments, it’s amazing what you come up with instead. You’ll normally find that these arguments get replaced with good old fashioned communicating. And, a lot more fun with your spouse, too.

7 Relationship Problems You Should Stop Arguing About

Posted by: tosin on July 20, 2014

As a marriage counselor, I see all sorts of couples in my office. They come to me with problems ranging from infidelity to not putting the cap back on the toothpaste. When they decide to go to marriage counseling, most couples have decided that their problems are so big that they need to get it sorted out — or else. However, there are a lot of problems couples have that aren’t really problems at all. They’re small enough that it’s not really worth the argument.

Seven Problems You Should Stop Arguing About
1. No s*x
As I said in another article, s*x is a healthy and important part of marriage. So it’s no wonder when couples fight about it — especially when they aren’t having it. The truth is, fighting about s*x is just making sure that it doesn’t happen for a while. Besides, lots of people have “dry spells”. Instead of sulking or arguing about it, try talking it through with your partner. Tell them exactly what you’re mad about and offer suggestions of what you both can do differently. Like I said, s*x is an important part of marriage so if it’s not happening much (or at all), then you may have some hard discussions ahead. But, just getting turned down once in a while is not a good reason for an argument.
2. My partner wants to have s*x all the time
Physical intimacy is the one thing that sets you and your partner apart from being roommates. Because of this, s*x is an important part of your marriage. It’s a unique way that you and your partner can express love, passion and romance that you can’t express with just anyone. So why complain when your partner wants to be intimate? It’s a great way to express love to each other. And it’s a lot more fun than browsing Facebook at night.
3. He or she doesn’t put the cap back on the toothpaste
I’ve never met someone who has divorced because their partner didn’t put the cap on the toothpaste. But I have seen plenty of couples argue about it (or something like it) over and over again. The truth is, it’s really not that big of a relationship violation and if it’s not worth divorcing about, it’s probably not really worth arguing about, either.
4. He doesn’t treat me like a princess
.
In the dating world, men are responsible to do everything. They’re supposed to be the ones to ask the girl out, they’re suppose to pay for the date and they’re supposed to treat their girl like a chivalrous knight in shining armor would. And if he does all this right, he gets rewarded with another date with her. Unfortunately, these unrealistic expectations set in the dating world don’t apply very well in marriage. A marriage is a partnership and expecting to be treated like a princess is expecting your husband to be a servant. Neither of these roles will work long-term in your marriage.
5. I shouldn’t have to ask — my partner should just know
In the business world, everyone knows you should communicate openly with your team — even over-communicate if possible. But there’s an unspoken expectation in marriage that you shouldn’t have to tell your partner what you want. If they really loved you, they would just know. Then, they should work their hardest to give you what you want. Instead of asking your partner to be “in tune” enough with you to know what you want, openly communicate your expectations just like you would at work. It’s a romantic idea that your partner magically knows what you want. It’s also a false one that has caused too many unnecessary arguments.
6. Who started it
“Well, I wouldn’t have done X if you wouldn’t have done Y.” I hate to break it to you, but just because your spouse did X, that doesn’t give you permission to do Y. In other words, you’re just as responsible for doing Y regardless of what your spouse did. Because of this, it doesn’t matter who started it. Each spouse is equally to blame. So, stop fighting about who started it and work together to try to find an ending to it.
7. Who said or did what and when
Remember at that Christmas party when your spouse did that one thing that really embarrassed you or made you angry? Well, it’s time to bury the hatchet and get over it. Fighting about things from the past will never do any good because you can’t go back in time and re-do them. Instead, focus on things in the present and what you can do today to repair the damage. Ask for specific things that will help you feel healed (see number 5 above) and give your spouse the opportunity to show you that he or she will do it.
These seven things are some of the most common arguments that happen in marriage. They’re also some of the most unnecessary ones. And, they usually cause a lot of hurt. When you stop these arguments, it’s amazing what you come up with instead. You’ll normally find that these arguments get replaced with good old fashioned communicating. And, a lot more fun with your spouse, too.

How to choose the best hairstyle for your face

The Best Hair Style For Your Face

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You were watching your favorite show last night and one of your favorite characters comes on screen with a new ‘do. It is super cute, and you immediately want something similar. So the next day you head to your local salon with a pic, get the haircut, and…you look terrible.

The shape of your face can drastically alter the way a style looks on you. Always play to your strengths and pick a style that is flattering.

Round Face

If your face is round, such as Mila Kunis, you want to go with layers and an asymmetrical cut. Different lengths will offset the general shape of your jaw and cheek lines. Unlike rounded cuts that will make your face look heavier.

Oval Face

Oval faces, like Emma Watson, look best when they are accentuated by a shorter cut. You can go either sleek or edgy, depending on your own preference. But pixie cuts are your best friend.

Square Face

Square faces have sharp angles in the jaw. Normally, you would think that means you should stay away from further angles. But in this case, those extreme cuts are actually a benefit, bringing out the straw jaw line rather than hiding it. Keira Knightley shows how it’s done with this angular bob.

Heart Face

The heart shaped face has soft sides that are longer than the round face, and a pointed chin. A number of hairstyles are appropriate for this type, but the best are simple cuts that are mostly one length. Too many layers can actually look choppy. To give it something extra, airy or straight bangs can be added.

When It Comes To Color

One part of hairstyle that some people don’t consider is the color. Your face shape doesn’t directly impact it, but choose the wrong color can take an otherwise good cut for your shape, and make it unappealing. This has more to do with skin tone, eye color, and the shade of the color itself.

A super easy way to decide if you are going to look good in a color is to try it with makeup first., Go to a drug store and pick up a cheap couple of pieces of makeup in the approximate shade, I would suggest lipstick and eyeshadow.

Next, put it on heavily enough to be seen, and go into some natural light. How does it look? If it doesn’t mesh well with your skin tone as makeup, don’t try to apply the color to your hair. If you do, it won’t matter than you chose a good cut.

How to choose the best hairstyle for your face

The Best Hair Style For Your Face

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You were watching your favorite show last night and one of your favorite characters comes on screen with a new ‘do. It is super cute, and you immediately want something similar. So the next day you head to your local salon with a pic, get the haircut, and…you look terrible.

The shape of your face can drastically alter the way a style looks on you. Always play to your strengths and pick a style that is flattering.

Round Face

If your face is round, such as Mila Kunis, you want to go with layers and an asymmetrical cut. Different lengths will offset the general shape of your jaw and cheek lines. Unlike rounded cuts that will make your face look heavier.

Oval Face

Oval faces, like Emma Watson, look best when they are accentuated by a shorter cut. You can go either sleek or edgy, depending on your own preference. But pixie cuts are your best friend.

Square Face

Square faces have sharp angles in the jaw. Normally, you would think that means you should stay away from further angles. But in this case, those extreme cuts are actually a benefit, bringing out the straw jaw line rather than hiding it. Keira Knightley shows how it’s done with this angular bob.

Heart Face

The heart shaped face has soft sides that are longer than the round face, and a pointed chin. A number of hairstyles are appropriate for this type, but the best are simple cuts that are mostly one length. Too many layers can actually look choppy. To give it something extra, airy or straight bangs can be added.

When It Comes To Color

One part of hairstyle that some people don’t consider is the color. Your face shape doesn’t directly impact it, but choose the wrong color can take an otherwise good cut for your shape, and make it unappealing. This has more to do with skin tone, eye color, and the shade of the color itself.

A super easy way to decide if you are going to look good in a color is to try it with makeup first., Go to a drug store and pick up a cheap couple of pieces of makeup in the approximate shade, I would suggest lipstick and eyeshadow.

Next, put it on heavily enough to be seen, and go into some natural light. How does it look? If it doesn’t mesh well with your skin tone as makeup, don’t try to apply the color to your hair. If you do, it won’t matter than you chose a good cut.

10 Surprising Things Husbands Miss About Being Single

 
We all know your husband came out ahead when he married you. But- and don’t take this personally!- husbands often feel they’ve given up some things once they’ve tied the knot, and we’re not talking about sleeping with different women. Since he won’t tell you what these are, our experts shared 10 things your guy’s secretly pining for, and how to give him more of what he wants without making yourself crazy.

1. Not explaining every purchase.
Your husband just won a vintage Kiss doll on eBay. For $200. Do you say “Congratulations” or “I thought we were saving for a vacation”? “Indulge your husband’s material desires sometimes, or else he doesn’t feel respected,” says Elizabeth Lombardo, PhD, a psychologist and author of A Happy You: Your Ultimate Prescription for Happiness. Of course, budget-busting purchases or hobbies shouldn’t be the norm. But even then, don’t reprimand him. “Instead, say, ‘I want you to enjoy golfing. Can we find a way you can do it that works financially?’” suggests Dr. Lombardo.

2. Attending only one set of family events.
When he got hitched, the number of his family obligations likely doubled, while his supply of patience for cheek-pinching aunts remained the same. What to do? “It’s all about picking battles,” says Kristin B. Hodson, a psychotherapist and co-author of Real Intimacy: A Couple’s Guide to Healthy, Genuine se*uality. Don’t make family plans without consulting him, and hammer out a balanced schedule for celebrating major holidays. If you’re traveling to your parents’ home for Christmas, for instance, maybe stay at a hotel instead of their house, so your man can still hog the bathroom like he does at home.

3. Looking unfashionable in public.
If your husband’s dorky wardrobe embarrasses you, the problem is mostly yours, says Dr. Lombardo. “What are you afraid of-being judged by other people based on what your husband wears?” Her advice: Let him choose his own threads on nearly all occasions, and make the best of it. If there’s a special event for which you want your husband to look a certain way, “give encouragement rather than orders,” advises Dr. Lombardo. “Tell him, ‘You look sexy in your chocolate-brown suede jacket,’” instead of “You’d better not wear the Members Only stuff again!”
4. Having a woman hang on every word of his stories.
“We feel important when people are wrapped up in what we’re saying,” says Dr. Lombardo. But it’s hard to be enthralled with your husband’s tales when you’ve heard ‘em all before! Still, cutting off one of his repeat stories cuts him down. Try to share his excitement, she advises. Isn’t a minute of restraint well worth how special he’ll feel? Another idea: “When he comes home, run to give him a kiss, and ask him how his day was,” Dr. Lombardo advises. You’ll get to hear new stories for a change!

5. Being a slob.
Guys miss tossing things wherever they want without getting the evil eye, says certified relationship coach Stephanie D. McKenzie, author of The Book of Bye: 12 Little Things That Might Be Reasons to End it, But That You Probably Never Thought Were a Big Deal. “When you scold him over making a mess, you seem less like a partner and more like a parent,” she explains. If you can swing it, set aside an area where your man can be sloppy without consequences. And schedule chores for both of you so you’re not always picking up after him.

6. Having an entire bed to himself.
It has nothing to do with loving you! “They sometimes like spreading out,” says Dr. Lombardo. They also like the luxury of snoring (or worse) without anyone telling them to knock it off. A king-size mattress means you can each claim some real estate. Also, get a quilt that’s one size larger than your bed-”you won’t annoy each other by stealing it then,” explains Dr. Lombardo.

7. Not sharing in the stress of your day-or talking about his feelings.
You’re waiting anxiously for your husband to walk through the door so you can tell him about your frustrating colleagues. But this kind of download can feel overwhelming, cautions McKenzie. “They think their job is to fix the problem.” Give your husband a half-hour-long breather before bombarding him, and when you do, make it clear you’re seeking sympathy, not solutions. At the same time, know that men tend to prefer to sit silently when something’s bugging them. “If he’s on the couch looking glum but says nothing’s wrong, say, ‘I don’t believe nothing’s wrong, but I’ll leave you alone. If you want to talk, I’m here,’” recommends McKenzie.

8. His mom and her unconditional love.
This can be a good thing. “It means you’re not mothering and smothering him.” Still, he may pine for Mama’s outsized confidence in him. Don’t fill that void-instead, encourage him to call her every week and arrange occasional just-them outings. Show him you value his mom, too: “Go out with her once in a while, even if she’s not your favorite person, and ask her how to make your husband’s favorite dish, even if you think it’s awful,” McKenzie says.
9. Making little decisions.
Men often defer to their wives’ preferences once they get married because it’s an easy way to get along, says Dr. Lombardo. If you choose the radio station in the car, the painting on the wall and everything else, though, your man may feel disenfranchised. “Rather than always saying, ‘Hey, let’s watch this movie,’ try asking, ‘What movie would you like to watch?’ once in a while,” Dr. Lombardo advises. And if you really can’t stand your husband’s tastes in something more permanent, like furniture, at least go shopping together so you can compromise.

10. Openly checking out other women.
Men are visual creatures-giving a gorgeous woman a quick up-and-down is a hard-to-break habit. And if you get upset about it, your husband may feel guilty and fenced in. He’s just noticing and appreciating beauty-it doesn’t mean he wants to sleep with the woman,” says Dr. Lombardo. Try to shrug it off, as long as his double-takes aren’t frequent: “You could even say, ‘I know, she’s hot, right?’” says McKenzie. If he replies with “Not compared to you,” he’s a winner!

10 Surprising Things Husbands Miss About Being Single

 
We all know your husband came out ahead when he married you. But- and don’t take this personally!- husbands often feel they’ve given up some things once they’ve tied the knot, and we’re not talking about sleeping with different women. Since he won’t tell you what these are, our experts shared 10 things your guy’s secretly pining for, and how to give him more of what he wants without making yourself crazy.

1. Not explaining every purchase.
Your husband just won a vintage Kiss doll on eBay. For $200. Do you say “Congratulations” or “I thought we were saving for a vacation”? “Indulge your husband’s material desires sometimes, or else he doesn’t feel respected,” says Elizabeth Lombardo, PhD, a psychologist and author of A Happy You: Your Ultimate Prescription for Happiness. Of course, budget-busting purchases or hobbies shouldn’t be the norm. But even then, don’t reprimand him. “Instead, say, ‘I want you to enjoy golfing. Can we find a way you can do it that works financially?’” suggests Dr. Lombardo.

2. Attending only one set of family events.
When he got hitched, the number of his family obligations likely doubled, while his supply of patience for cheek-pinching aunts remained the same. What to do? “It’s all about picking battles,” says Kristin B. Hodson, a psychotherapist and co-author of Real Intimacy: A Couple’s Guide to Healthy, Genuine se*uality. Don’t make family plans without consulting him, and hammer out a balanced schedule for celebrating major holidays. If you’re traveling to your parents’ home for Christmas, for instance, maybe stay at a hotel instead of their house, so your man can still hog the bathroom like he does at home.

3. Looking unfashionable in public.
If your husband’s dorky wardrobe embarrasses you, the problem is mostly yours, says Dr. Lombardo. “What are you afraid of-being judged by other people based on what your husband wears?” Her advice: Let him choose his own threads on nearly all occasions, and make the best of it. If there’s a special event for which you want your husband to look a certain way, “give encouragement rather than orders,” advises Dr. Lombardo. “Tell him, ‘You look sexy in your chocolate-brown suede jacket,’” instead of “You’d better not wear the Members Only stuff again!”
4. Having a woman hang on every word of his stories.
“We feel important when people are wrapped up in what we’re saying,” says Dr. Lombardo. But it’s hard to be enthralled with your husband’s tales when you’ve heard ‘em all before! Still, cutting off one of his repeat stories cuts him down. Try to share his excitement, she advises. Isn’t a minute of restraint well worth how special he’ll feel? Another idea: “When he comes home, run to give him a kiss, and ask him how his day was,” Dr. Lombardo advises. You’ll get to hear new stories for a change!

5. Being a slob.
Guys miss tossing things wherever they want without getting the evil eye, says certified relationship coach Stephanie D. McKenzie, author of The Book of Bye: 12 Little Things That Might Be Reasons to End it, But That You Probably Never Thought Were a Big Deal. “When you scold him over making a mess, you seem less like a partner and more like a parent,” she explains. If you can swing it, set aside an area where your man can be sloppy without consequences. And schedule chores for both of you so you’re not always picking up after him.

6. Having an entire bed to himself.
It has nothing to do with loving you! “They sometimes like spreading out,” says Dr. Lombardo. They also like the luxury of snoring (or worse) without anyone telling them to knock it off. A king-size mattress means you can each claim some real estate. Also, get a quilt that’s one size larger than your bed-”you won’t annoy each other by stealing it then,” explains Dr. Lombardo.

7. Not sharing in the stress of your day-or talking about his feelings.
You’re waiting anxiously for your husband to walk through the door so you can tell him about your frustrating colleagues. But this kind of download can feel overwhelming, cautions McKenzie. “They think their job is to fix the problem.” Give your husband a half-hour-long breather before bombarding him, and when you do, make it clear you’re seeking sympathy, not solutions. At the same time, know that men tend to prefer to sit silently when something’s bugging them. “If he’s on the couch looking glum but says nothing’s wrong, say, ‘I don’t believe nothing’s wrong, but I’ll leave you alone. If you want to talk, I’m here,’” recommends McKenzie.

8. His mom and her unconditional love.
This can be a good thing. “It means you’re not mothering and smothering him.” Still, he may pine for Mama’s outsized confidence in him. Don’t fill that void-instead, encourage him to call her every week and arrange occasional just-them outings. Show him you value his mom, too: “Go out with her once in a while, even if she’s not your favorite person, and ask her how to make your husband’s favorite dish, even if you think it’s awful,” McKenzie says.
9. Making little decisions.
Men often defer to their wives’ preferences once they get married because it’s an easy way to get along, says Dr. Lombardo. If you choose the radio station in the car, the painting on the wall and everything else, though, your man may feel disenfranchised. “Rather than always saying, ‘Hey, let’s watch this movie,’ try asking, ‘What movie would you like to watch?’ once in a while,” Dr. Lombardo advises. And if you really can’t stand your husband’s tastes in something more permanent, like furniture, at least go shopping together so you can compromise.

10. Openly checking out other women.
Men are visual creatures-giving a gorgeous woman a quick up-and-down is a hard-to-break habit. And if you get upset about it, your husband may feel guilty and fenced in. He’s just noticing and appreciating beauty-it doesn’t mean he wants to sleep with the woman,” says Dr. Lombardo. Try to shrug it off, as long as his double-takes aren’t frequent: “You could even say, ‘I know, she’s hot, right?’” says McKenzie. If he replies with “Not compared to you,” he’s a winner!

6 Refreshing Beauty Secrets of Watermelon that Your Skin would Love

Watermelon is the coolest fruit that you can dig into during the hot summer months, and it is great for your skin as well. It is rich in vitamins and potassium, with high water and fibre content, and is low in calories. That is why; it is an amazing fruit for your skin and body. Whether you like to eat this red, juicy fruit or not, you can enjoy its amazing benefits, just read on to know how:

1. Works as a natural toner
To have clean and clear skin, use watermelon toner that will hydrate your skin while refreshing it. Toner helps to reduce the risks of acne and other skin blemishes from finding their place on your face.
Just mix some watermelon juice, and apply that on your cleansed face, with the help of a cotton ball. Rinse it off after it dries. You can also add some honey to this.
You can also make a toner by blending one cup watermelon chunks, with half an orange and one cup water. Use the strained liquid on your face daily. This liquid can be refrigerated for 5 days.
If you already suffer from acne or blemishes, then make ice cubes out of watermelon juice and rose water, and rub it on your face to freshen it.
After cleaning the toner off, remember to use a gentle moisturiser on your skin.
2. Natural way to ditch age marks
Watermelon is rich in vitamin A and C, and anti-ageing agents such as lycopene. The presence of these antioxidants decreases the occurrence of wrinkles, fine lines and age spots. Best result can be seen by topical application as well as eating a healthy dose of this wonderful and juicy fruit.
Apply watermelon pulp on your skin as a mask, or rub some watermelon juice on your face regularly.
You can also mix equal quantity of watermelon juice and crushed avocado. Keep this pack on your face for 15-20 minutes, before rinsing it off with warm water. Both these fruits are a great way to keep your skin plump and supple.
3. Wonderful way to get glowing and healthy skin
Watermelon is blessed with properties that can make your skin look and feel fresh, firm and healthier. By consuming watermelon you can flush out toxins from the body, which result in glowing skin.
Here is how you can enjoy its various benefits by adding it to your facial masks and scrubs:
Apply watermelon pulp all over face and neck for fifteen minutes before washing it off to reveal clean and refreshed skin.
If you have oily skin, then blend some watermelon pulp with yoghurt and use that as a face pack. For those who have dry skin, just replace yoghurt with banana.
For treating sunburn and suntans, prepare a pack of equal portion watermelon and cucumber, and apply that on your face.
A scrub made of grated watermelon and gram flour leaves you with a glowing skin.
You can also add a few drops of this fruit to your summer beauty face packs to make them even more wonderful and favourable.
4. Keeps skin hydrated and moisturised
Dry and dull skin is often the result of dehydrated skin. With its high water content, watermelon is a good option for keeping the skin hydrated. A well-hydrated body has good collagen production that is necessary for youthful skin. So, add this juicy red fruit to your daily diet.
You can apply a watermelon and honey mask to the face for extra moisturisation, apart from eating it.
5. Effect on skin pores
.The high content of vitamin A in the fruit allows it to decrease the size of skin pores while also controlling the oil secretions from sebaceous glands. That is what makes this juicy summer fruit great for those who have an oily skin.
Blend some watermelon juice with mint leaves, and freeze this mixture in ice trays. Rub these ice cubes on your skin to close open skin pores. This is also a great remedy to cleanse your pores of the dust and pollution.
The scorching summer heat can prove to be taxing on the skin. The acids present in water melon work great as an exfoliating agent that leave your skin radiant. Here is a quick body scrub that will help you soothe the tired skin instantly while leaving it glowing.
Blend one cup of watermelon chunks with sugar and add lemon juice to it. This can be stored for up to a week in the refrigerator. Use this in your bath to gently exfoliate the skin.
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6 Refreshing Beauty Secrets of Watermelon that Your Skin would Love

Watermelon is the coolest fruit that you can dig into during the hot summer months, and it is great for your skin as well. It is rich in vitamins and potassium, with high water and fibre content, and is low in calories. That is why; it is an amazing fruit for your skin and body. Whether you like to eat this red, juicy fruit or not, you can enjoy its amazing benefits, just read on to know how:

1. Works as a natural toner
To have clean and clear skin, use watermelon toner that will hydrate your skin while refreshing it. Toner helps to reduce the risks of acne and other skin blemishes from finding their place on your face.
Just mix some watermelon juice, and apply that on your cleansed face, with the help of a cotton ball. Rinse it off after it dries. You can also add some honey to this.
You can also make a toner by blending one cup watermelon chunks, with half an orange and one cup water. Use the strained liquid on your face daily. This liquid can be refrigerated for 5 days.
If you already suffer from acne or blemishes, then make ice cubes out of watermelon juice and rose water, and rub it on your face to freshen it.
After cleaning the toner off, remember to use a gentle moisturiser on your skin.
2. Natural way to ditch age marks
Watermelon is rich in vitamin A and C, and anti-ageing agents such as lycopene. The presence of these antioxidants decreases the occurrence of wrinkles, fine lines and age spots. Best result can be seen by topical application as well as eating a healthy dose of this wonderful and juicy fruit.
Apply watermelon pulp on your skin as a mask, or rub some watermelon juice on your face regularly.
You can also mix equal quantity of watermelon juice and crushed avocado. Keep this pack on your face for 15-20 minutes, before rinsing it off with warm water. Both these fruits are a great way to keep your skin plump and supple.
3. Wonderful way to get glowing and healthy skin
Watermelon is blessed with properties that can make your skin look and feel fresh, firm and healthier. By consuming watermelon you can flush out toxins from the body, which result in glowing skin.
Here is how you can enjoy its various benefits by adding it to your facial masks and scrubs:
Apply watermelon pulp all over face and neck for fifteen minutes before washing it off to reveal clean and refreshed skin.
If you have oily skin, then blend some watermelon pulp with yoghurt and use that as a face pack. For those who have dry skin, just replace yoghurt with banana.
For treating sunburn and suntans, prepare a pack of equal portion watermelon and cucumber, and apply that on your face.
A scrub made of grated watermelon and gram flour leaves you with a glowing skin.
You can also add a few drops of this fruit to your summer beauty face packs to make them even more wonderful and favourable.
4. Keeps skin hydrated and moisturised
Dry and dull skin is often the result of dehydrated skin. With its high water content, watermelon is a good option for keeping the skin hydrated. A well-hydrated body has good collagen production that is necessary for youthful skin. So, add this juicy red fruit to your daily diet.
You can apply a watermelon and honey mask to the face for extra moisturisation, apart from eating it.
5. Effect on skin pores
.The high content of vitamin A in the fruit allows it to decrease the size of skin pores while also controlling the oil secretions from sebaceous glands. That is what makes this juicy summer fruit great for those who have an oily skin.
Blend some watermelon juice with mint leaves, and freeze this mixture in ice trays. Rub these ice cubes on your skin to close open skin pores. This is also a great remedy to cleanse your pores of the dust and pollution.
The scorching summer heat can prove to be taxing on the skin. The acids present in water melon work great as an exfoliating agent that leave your skin radiant. Here is a quick body scrub that will help you soothe the tired skin instantly while leaving it glowing.
Blend one cup of watermelon chunks with sugar and add lemon juice to it. This can be stored for up to a week in the refrigerator. Use this in your bath to gently exfoliate the skin.
Source: Bollywoodshaadis.com

Smart Tips to Remove Those Stretch Marks

Stretch marks, although a common problem, can be a harrowing discovery on your body, but there are some things you can do to limit their effect.
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Stretch marks can appear for different reasons. The skin is a highly flexible entity, but when stretch marks can occur when the connective tissue is overly strained. The most common ways to get them are rapid weight gain, such as pregnancy or sudden muscle growth. Many get them during puberty when the body can suddenly start to grow too fast for the skin to keep up. In the beginning, the stretch marks will appear red under the thin stretched skin but in time they will turn white and become less noticeable.
Can you remove stretch marks?
There is no easy ticket to remove stretch marks. A lot of skin products will claim that they do the trick, but it is advisable to take this with a pinch of salt, otherwise you are likely to get disappointed. There are, however, ways of reducing them and making your skin look healthy and radiant.
The very first step to remove stretch marks is to remove them from your mental landscape. Stop focusing on them and get perspective – having stretch marks does not mean your body is destroyed.
What can help to soothe and reduce stretch marks?
The next step is to start supporting your body’s brilliant natural functions by staying hydrated and eating sensibly. Drink plenty of water and make sure to implement a varied selection of vegetables into your daily consumption. Your skin will award you for it. What you choose to put in your mouth is more likely to change the appearance of stretch marks than any lotion or oil.
However, a product that stands out as a remedy for stretch marks is Bio-Oil. It contains essential agents that with regular use will improve the structure and feel of the skin. It can even in certain cases contribute to remove stretch marks or at least shrink them to being barely visible.
Not being able to remove stretch marks is not the end of the world
Stretch marks effect a vast amount of people. It is a an extremely common issue. What if you decided that they are not so bad after all? If you focus too much on a small of your body like an area with stretch marks – there is a danger of ending up thinking that everyone else will notice it in the same way you do. In reality the toughest judge you have is yourself, so it is important not to worry too much about removing your stretch marks.

Smart Tips to Remove Those Stretch Marks

Stretch marks, although a common problem, can be a harrowing discovery on your body, but there are some things you can do to limit their effect.
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Stretch marks can appear for different reasons. The skin is a highly flexible entity, but when stretch marks can occur when the connective tissue is overly strained. The most common ways to get them are rapid weight gain, such as pregnancy or sudden muscle growth. Many get them during puberty when the body can suddenly start to grow too fast for the skin to keep up. In the beginning, the stretch marks will appear red under the thin stretched skin but in time they will turn white and become less noticeable.
Can you remove stretch marks?
There is no easy ticket to remove stretch marks. A lot of skin products will claim that they do the trick, but it is advisable to take this with a pinch of salt, otherwise you are likely to get disappointed. There are, however, ways of reducing them and making your skin look healthy and radiant.
The very first step to remove stretch marks is to remove them from your mental landscape. Stop focusing on them and get perspective – having stretch marks does not mean your body is destroyed.
What can help to soothe and reduce stretch marks?
The next step is to start supporting your body’s brilliant natural functions by staying hydrated and eating sensibly. Drink plenty of water and make sure to implement a varied selection of vegetables into your daily consumption. Your skin will award you for it. What you choose to put in your mouth is more likely to change the appearance of stretch marks than any lotion or oil.
However, a product that stands out as a remedy for stretch marks is Bio-Oil. It contains essential agents that with regular use will improve the structure and feel of the skin. It can even in certain cases contribute to remove stretch marks or at least shrink them to being barely visible.
Not being able to remove stretch marks is not the end of the world
Stretch marks effect a vast amount of people. It is a an extremely common issue. What if you decided that they are not so bad after all? If you focus too much on a small of your body like an area with stretch marks – there is a danger of ending up thinking that everyone else will notice it in the same way you do. In reality the toughest judge you have is yourself, so it is important not to worry too much about removing your stretch marks.

President Jonathan seeks $1billion loan to fight Boko Haram

President Jonathan is seeking $1billion loan to fight Boko Haram. In a letter sent to the House of Representatives this morning, President Jonathan asked the Rep members to approve a request for an external loan of $1billion (about N165billion) which would be used to upgrade the equipment of the Armed Forces in the fight of the insurgent group, Boko Haram. The letter was read this morning during the house plenary session.

President Jonathan seeks $1billion loan to fight Boko Haram

President Jonathan is seeking $1billion loan to fight Boko Haram. In a letter sent to the House of Representatives this morning, President Jonathan asked the Rep members to approve a request for an external loan of $1billion (about N165billion) which would be used to upgrade the equipment of the Armed Forces in the fight of the insurgent group, Boko Haram. The letter was read this morning during the house plenary session.

Mum & 2 pregnant daughters all widowed after husbands die in plane crash

A mother and her two pregnant daughters have all been left tragically widowed after their husbands died in a plane crash in California on July 6th.

The three husbands, Doug Symiczek, 49 (centre), Kyle Parton, 29 (left), and Jacob Griffiths, 32, (right) were on a small private plane when it crashed into a mountain in California. The men had taken a morning flight to enjoy breakfast at their favourite cafe but on their way back home around 9am, the single-engined plane got in to difficulties and crashed in to a nearby mountain & exploded on impact. All three men died instantly. Continue...

A week after the tragic crash, Kyle’s wife Breanna (left) gave birth to their second child, on July 13th

 

Jacob's wife (pictured left) was three months pregnant at the time of the fatal crash..and just day before the accident, Jacob and Amanda had posed for photographs to announce their happy news.

 

The girl's mum, Kim, had been married to their dad (pictured on top) for 30 years. So they lost their husbands and dad same day. The dad had been piloting the plane that morning..and owned the plane.

Mum & 2 pregnant daughters all widowed after husbands die in plane crash

A mother and her two pregnant daughters have all been left tragically widowed after their husbands died in a plane crash in California on July 6th.

The three husbands, Doug Symiczek, 49 (centre), Kyle Parton, 29 (left), and Jacob Griffiths, 32, (right) were on a small private plane when it crashed into a mountain in California. The men had taken a morning flight to enjoy breakfast at their favourite cafe but on their way back home around 9am, the single-engined plane got in to difficulties and crashed in to a nearby mountain & exploded on impact. All three men died instantly. Continue...

A week after the tragic crash, Kyle’s wife Breanna (left) gave birth to their second child, on July 13th

 

Jacob's wife (pictured left) was three months pregnant at the time of the fatal crash..and just day before the accident, Jacob and Amanda had posed for photographs to announce their happy news.

 

The girl's mum, Kim, had been married to their dad (pictured on top) for 30 years. So they lost their husbands and dad same day. The dad had been piloting the plane that morning..and owned the plane.

Justin Bieber's girlfriend goes braless...................

There are speculations that 21 year old singer and actress Selena Gomez may have gotten breast implants after she was spotted on the streets of New York yesterday with fuller boobs. (left is Selena a while back and right is what her boobs look like now).

Justin Bieber's girlfriend went bra-less in a sheer black top as she went to lunch with friends. You think she got implants? See more photos after the cut...

Selena at Met Gala in New York City this May (L) and Selena in New York yesterday (R)...