Can one really be friends with the ex.....

 Is it really the best idea to remain friends with your ex’? It might seem like the easiest way to deal with the pain of break up, right? Someone you have been with for a long time and then suddenly they might not be there ever – it’s a pretty scary thought – so you’re like well let’s not be lovers anymore but let’s remain friends.Do you really think this thought works???
Who are you kidding? Should you really be friends with your ex? I don’t think its the best thing to do and here are my reasons I think it may be an accident in the making;
The Awful Benefits

The funny thing when you both agree to be friends is that you do know its going to be with benefits, but you just pretend its not going to happen, that you are just going to be ‘Just friends’. But don’t forget you were ‘Together-Together’ if you know what I mean.
You Broke up

Sweetheart there is a reason he/she is your ex’, ‘your past’. There is a reason the romance didn’t work out anyway, so what’s the point? If you hold on to the past you will never know what you are missing in the future.

Its just Frustrating

Hanging out together as friends? You know there are moments you want to kiss them, hug them, hold them and you are just confused like should you do or not do that. Do you really want to torture yourself like that?

It’s not Real

The truth is it might still feel real but its not the real thing, everything is false. A false hope of what maybe or may not be, what could be or couldn’t. I’m sure you don’t want be put yourself through that?

The Memories

Except it lasted for a day or a week, you too have sure made pretty memories together – fun, pleasant, intimate ones and then its just there, left sailing on some lonely ship you’ve named friendship. Remember all the fun parties, emotions, friends – you just live with it or pretend you aren’t bothered.

The Awkward Moments

There are places, topics, people, things that just become off limit because its going to get really awkward between you too if such ever happened. Besides you do know he/she will start dating though? You have to pretend it doesn’t matter meanwhile you are dying inside. I mean you wouldn’t want him/her to just move on just like that while you are still brooding. Just imagine when you are finally meet the new person, do you just fake smiles?

Other people

Other people in your life would most likely not understand. They will see you as someone who can’t move on or let go or even crazy. Then you will have to spend every waking moment explaining why you are still friends with your Ex’.

Moving On

You do know you are also stuck right? You will never find someone good enough if you still hangout every weekend with your ex in the name of friendship.



Also don’t forget the popular saying ‘ You can never be friends with your Ex’ except you were never in love’.

I know its supposed to make you feel better but trust me, it doesn’t.

Have you tried out being friends with your ex before or are you currently friends with your ex? Let me know how that’s working out.