4 smart things you should do instead of picking a fight

Not every disagreement requires a full-blown discussion. Try these things instead ..
Words can hurt, and the wrong words can seriously damage a relationship.

Honest, open communication is important in any relationship but sometimes we’re just not capable of it. When we’re upset, we revert to familiar patterns of bad behavior, often founded on old unresolved issues, and we can’t see our way out of it. We’re likely not even aware that we’re doing it.
We might be from different planets, or at least had different upbringings, so we often do not communicate in the same manner or on the same level. Inevitably, problems arise and are often made worse by attempting to talk them through. So don’t. Not just now.
INSTEAD:
1. Bite your tongue and swallow your words.
If it’s complaining, sarcastic, critical or otherwise hurtful — don’t say it.
Do you really benefit from making that smart remark intended to get a leg up — show who’s better? Does one of you seem to have a need to always be right? Does one of you need to have the last word — even in your head? Is massaging your ego more important than being in a loving relationship?
It takes two to argue; be the one to turn away from a fight. Come back when you’ve both cooled off. Also, do not disrespect your partner to, or in front of, others. Negative energy breeds negative energy.
2. Do something nice for yourself.
Always take care of yourself by getting enough sleep, eating properly, exercising, breathing fresh air and enjoying regular relaxation.
Every now and again do something special. Go fishing, spend time with friends or enjoy a day at the spa. Drive out to the country by yourself, read a trashy novel, go to a game, take yourself out for a nice meal, engage in a hobby.
If you feel good about yourself you’ll have more positive attention for your partner and renewed energy to deal with whatever gets tossed at you.
3. Focus on what is going well in your life and your relationship.
Perhaps keep a gratitude journal. List anything, no matter how small.
Maybe she has a good sense of color — decorating the home with flair. Maybe he’s a playful father. Maybe she loves to walk the dog daily. Maybe he is always on time for work. Maybe her nails always look fabulous. Maybe he’s kind to the waiter and tips well.
When you focus on what’s going well, it expands — bringing to you more of what you like.
So, stop paying attention to what’s not going well and instead, pay attention to those little things that you can appreciate. Get yourself in a good feeling place before you have a difficult conversation with each other — if you still need to.
4. Do something nice for your partner — without being asked.
Do a chore or errand that’s not usually your responsibility — not just once, but daily. Don’t keep score.
And do it without expectation of acknowledgement, appreciation or reciprocity.
yourtango.com

4 smart things you should do instead of picking a fight

Not every disagreement requires a full-blown discussion. Try these things instead ..
Words can hurt, and the wrong words can seriously damage a relationship.

Honest, open communication is important in any relationship but sometimes we’re just not capable of it. When we’re upset, we revert to familiar patterns of bad behavior, often founded on old unresolved issues, and we can’t see our way out of it. We’re likely not even aware that we’re doing it.
We might be from different planets, or at least had different upbringings, so we often do not communicate in the same manner or on the same level. Inevitably, problems arise and are often made worse by attempting to talk them through. So don’t. Not just now.
INSTEAD:
1. Bite your tongue and swallow your words.
If it’s complaining, sarcastic, critical or otherwise hurtful — don’t say it.
Do you really benefit from making that smart remark intended to get a leg up — show who’s better? Does one of you seem to have a need to always be right? Does one of you need to have the last word — even in your head? Is massaging your ego more important than being in a loving relationship?
It takes two to argue; be the one to turn away from a fight. Come back when you’ve both cooled off. Also, do not disrespect your partner to, or in front of, others. Negative energy breeds negative energy.
2. Do something nice for yourself.
Always take care of yourself by getting enough sleep, eating properly, exercising, breathing fresh air and enjoying regular relaxation.
Every now and again do something special. Go fishing, spend time with friends or enjoy a day at the spa. Drive out to the country by yourself, read a trashy novel, go to a game, take yourself out for a nice meal, engage in a hobby.
If you feel good about yourself you’ll have more positive attention for your partner and renewed energy to deal with whatever gets tossed at you.
3. Focus on what is going well in your life and your relationship.
Perhaps keep a gratitude journal. List anything, no matter how small.
Maybe she has a good sense of color — decorating the home with flair. Maybe he’s a playful father. Maybe she loves to walk the dog daily. Maybe he is always on time for work. Maybe her nails always look fabulous. Maybe he’s kind to the waiter and tips well.
When you focus on what’s going well, it expands — bringing to you more of what you like.
So, stop paying attention to what’s not going well and instead, pay attention to those little things that you can appreciate. Get yourself in a good feeling place before you have a difficult conversation with each other — if you still need to.
4. Do something nice for your partner — without being asked.
Do a chore or errand that’s not usually your responsibility — not just once, but daily. Don’t keep score.
And do it without expectation of acknowledgement, appreciation or reciprocity.
yourtango.com

Didi Ekanem.....A mad man almost grabbed my butt

She said she will really love it if  people focus more on her talent than her butts....

Didi Ekanem.....A mad man almost grabbed my butt

She said she will really love it if  people focus more on her talent than her butts....

Gang Kills 68-year-old for Hitting Man with Fetish Ring in Ketu

A gang in the Ketu area of Lagos State has tortured to death a 68-year-old man, Nasirudeen Ajawesola, for allegedly hitting a resident of the area with a fetish ring.

It was gathered that the resident, who could not be identified as of press time, subsequently fell unconscious. The incident happened on Osokoya Street, Ketu.

The police were, however, able to apprehend a member of the group, Abiola Ogunmola, who was the
elder brother of the resident.

PUNCH Metro gathered that on the fateful day, the deceased’s first son, a vulcaniser, had ran home to call his father to report that he was being forced to participate in a community work going on in the area.

When Ajawesola arrived at the scene, an argument was said to have started, which led to a fight.

In the ensuing confusion, Ajawesola allegedly slapped the brother of the suspect with a fetish ring.

The victim was said to have fallen down and became unconscious.

Our correspondent was told that the suspect insisted that Ajawesola must revive his brother, and when he could not, Ogunmola and his gang took him into custody. They were said to have tortured him to death.

Policemen from the Ketu division were, however, able to apprehend only 30-year-old Ogunmola, while other members of the gang fled.

The police said he confessed to the crime, though no exhibit was recovered from him.

Gang Kills 68-year-old for Hitting Man with Fetish Ring in Ketu

A gang in the Ketu area of Lagos State has tortured to death a 68-year-old man, Nasirudeen Ajawesola, for allegedly hitting a resident of the area with a fetish ring.

It was gathered that the resident, who could not be identified as of press time, subsequently fell unconscious. The incident happened on Osokoya Street, Ketu.

The police were, however, able to apprehend a member of the group, Abiola Ogunmola, who was the
elder brother of the resident.

PUNCH Metro gathered that on the fateful day, the deceased’s first son, a vulcaniser, had ran home to call his father to report that he was being forced to participate in a community work going on in the area.

When Ajawesola arrived at the scene, an argument was said to have started, which led to a fight.

In the ensuing confusion, Ajawesola allegedly slapped the brother of the suspect with a fetish ring.

The victim was said to have fallen down and became unconscious.

Our correspondent was told that the suspect insisted that Ajawesola must revive his brother, and when he could not, Ogunmola and his gang took him into custody. They were said to have tortured him to death.

Policemen from the Ketu division were, however, able to apprehend only 30-year-old Ogunmola, while other members of the gang fled.

The police said he confessed to the crime, though no exhibit was recovered from him.

Can one really be friends with the ex.....

 Is it really the best idea to remain friends with your ex’? It might seem like the easiest way to deal with the pain of break up, right? Someone you have been with for a long time and then suddenly they might not be there ever – it’s a pretty scary thought – so you’re like well let’s not be lovers anymore but let’s remain friends.Do you really think this thought works???
Who are you kidding? Should you really be friends with your ex? I don’t think its the best thing to do and here are my reasons I think it may be an accident in the making;
The Awful Benefits

The funny thing when you both agree to be friends is that you do know its going to be with benefits, but you just pretend its not going to happen, that you are just going to be ‘Just friends’. But don’t forget you were ‘Together-Together’ if you know what I mean.
You Broke up

Sweetheart there is a reason he/she is your ex’, ‘your past’. There is a reason the romance didn’t work out anyway, so what’s the point? If you hold on to the past you will never know what you are missing in the future.

Its just Frustrating

Hanging out together as friends? You know there are moments you want to kiss them, hug them, hold them and you are just confused like should you do or not do that. Do you really want to torture yourself like that?

It’s not Real

The truth is it might still feel real but its not the real thing, everything is false. A false hope of what maybe or may not be, what could be or couldn’t. I’m sure you don’t want be put yourself through that?

The Memories

Except it lasted for a day or a week, you too have sure made pretty memories together – fun, pleasant, intimate ones and then its just there, left sailing on some lonely ship you’ve named friendship. Remember all the fun parties, emotions, friends – you just live with it or pretend you aren’t bothered.

The Awkward Moments

There are places, topics, people, things that just become off limit because its going to get really awkward between you too if such ever happened. Besides you do know he/she will start dating though? You have to pretend it doesn’t matter meanwhile you are dying inside. I mean you wouldn’t want him/her to just move on just like that while you are still brooding. Just imagine when you are finally meet the new person, do you just fake smiles?

Other people

Other people in your life would most likely not understand. They will see you as someone who can’t move on or let go or even crazy. Then you will have to spend every waking moment explaining why you are still friends with your Ex’.

Moving On

You do know you are also stuck right? You will never find someone good enough if you still hangout every weekend with your ex in the name of friendship.



Also don’t forget the popular saying ‘ You can never be friends with your Ex’ except you were never in love’.

I know its supposed to make you feel better but trust me, it doesn’t.

Have you tried out being friends with your ex before or are you currently friends with your ex? Let me know how that’s working out.

Can one really be friends with the ex.....

 Is it really the best idea to remain friends with your ex’? It might seem like the easiest way to deal with the pain of break up, right? Someone you have been with for a long time and then suddenly they might not be there ever – it’s a pretty scary thought – so you’re like well let’s not be lovers anymore but let’s remain friends.Do you really think this thought works???
Who are you kidding? Should you really be friends with your ex? I don’t think its the best thing to do and here are my reasons I think it may be an accident in the making;
The Awful Benefits

The funny thing when you both agree to be friends is that you do know its going to be with benefits, but you just pretend its not going to happen, that you are just going to be ‘Just friends’. But don’t forget you were ‘Together-Together’ if you know what I mean.
You Broke up

Sweetheart there is a reason he/she is your ex’, ‘your past’. There is a reason the romance didn’t work out anyway, so what’s the point? If you hold on to the past you will never know what you are missing in the future.

Its just Frustrating

Hanging out together as friends? You know there are moments you want to kiss them, hug them, hold them and you are just confused like should you do or not do that. Do you really want to torture yourself like that?

It’s not Real

The truth is it might still feel real but its not the real thing, everything is false. A false hope of what maybe or may not be, what could be or couldn’t. I’m sure you don’t want be put yourself through that?

The Memories

Except it lasted for a day or a week, you too have sure made pretty memories together – fun, pleasant, intimate ones and then its just there, left sailing on some lonely ship you’ve named friendship. Remember all the fun parties, emotions, friends – you just live with it or pretend you aren’t bothered.

The Awkward Moments

There are places, topics, people, things that just become off limit because its going to get really awkward between you too if such ever happened. Besides you do know he/she will start dating though? You have to pretend it doesn’t matter meanwhile you are dying inside. I mean you wouldn’t want him/her to just move on just like that while you are still brooding. Just imagine when you are finally meet the new person, do you just fake smiles?

Other people

Other people in your life would most likely not understand. They will see you as someone who can’t move on or let go or even crazy. Then you will have to spend every waking moment explaining why you are still friends with your Ex’.

Moving On

You do know you are also stuck right? You will never find someone good enough if you still hangout every weekend with your ex in the name of friendship.



Also don’t forget the popular saying ‘ You can never be friends with your Ex’ except you were never in love’.

I know its supposed to make you feel better but trust me, it doesn’t.

Have you tried out being friends with your ex before or are you currently friends with your ex? Let me know how that’s working out.

Beauty or Brain

Do you prefer beauty or brain in choosing a spouse????pick one

Beauty or Brain

Do you prefer beauty or brain in choosing a spouse????pick one

Attend a beauty seminar.

Learn how Eunice got some extra income for herself by attending a FreeBeauty Business on the Go Seminar.

Get inspired to start your own Beauty Business on the Go and experience the joy that comes from making your own money, becoming a CEO, and impacting other women.It is a great seminar that will help ladies that are interested in Beauty business...is fun and holds several opportunity for everyone.

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Attend a beauty seminar.

Learn how Eunice got some extra income for herself by attending a FreeBeauty Business on the Go Seminar.

Get inspired to start your own Beauty Business on the Go and experience the joy that comes from making your own money, becoming a CEO, and impacting other women.It is a great seminar that will help ladies that are interested in Beauty business...is fun and holds several opportunity for everyone.

To get more details on this seminar, click on the link below.

http://www.eventbrite.com/e/beauty-business-on-the-go-tickets-15596344085)

Bobbi Kristina’s Life Support Turned Off- Police

TMZ’s reports is slowly turning out to be the truth.  According to another exclusive report by Dailymail, Bobbi Kristina Brown's life-support has been turned off. Here’s how they reported it on their website.

The 21-year-old daughter of Whitney Houston was found face down in a bath-tub at the Roswell, Georgia townhouse she shared with partner Nick Gordon on Saturday.

Her father Bobby Brown, whose birthday is today, is at Emory University Hospital in Atlanta hospital with friends and relatives.

'The plug on Bobbi Kristina has been pulled,' a police source with knowledge of her medical condition told DailyMail.com. 

It is possible for a patient to survive despite artificial assistance being withdrawn.

She was moved to the Atlanta hospital from North Fulton Hospital on Monday. She had been placed in a medically-induced coma and was reported to be breathing with the help of a ventilator.

During tests for brain activity, she briefly opened her eyes and doctors found 'minimal' improvement in her brain function.

A doctor told the family that nothing more could be done for her.

'Everyone is coming to the hospital to say goodbye,' a family member said.  

'Bobby has been crying nonstop since yesterday,' the source added. 'We are grieving.'

Bobbi Kristina’s Life Support Turned Off- Police

TMZ’s reports is slowly turning out to be the truth.  According to another exclusive report by Dailymail, Bobbi Kristina Brown's life-support has been turned off. Here’s how they reported it on their website.

The 21-year-old daughter of Whitney Houston was found face down in a bath-tub at the Roswell, Georgia townhouse she shared with partner Nick Gordon on Saturday.

Her father Bobby Brown, whose birthday is today, is at Emory University Hospital in Atlanta hospital with friends and relatives.

'The plug on Bobbi Kristina has been pulled,' a police source with knowledge of her medical condition told DailyMail.com. 

It is possible for a patient to survive despite artificial assistance being withdrawn.

She was moved to the Atlanta hospital from North Fulton Hospital on Monday. She had been placed in a medically-induced coma and was reported to be breathing with the help of a ventilator.

During tests for brain activity, she briefly opened her eyes and doctors found 'minimal' improvement in her brain function.

A doctor told the family that nothing more could be done for her.

'Everyone is coming to the hospital to say goodbye,' a family member said.  

'Bobby has been crying nonstop since yesterday,' the source added. 'We are grieving.'

Footballer Sunday Emmanuel shares cute pics of his family