Do You Want Too Much?

“I THOUGHT it would be cool to postpone dating until I meet the right guy. Regretfully, I will confess that I have not met anyone of whom I might say that it has been worthwhile to wait.”
  Comment: There are eligible men out there. There are more good guys than bad. It is, therefore, not impossible that you have not put into perspective what you want from your dates.
  It cannot be ruled out that you even live in a fantasy world, where your men must be perfect.
  Take many women, for example. They consider looks as a major quality: “He is handsome.” So, they go into a relationship even when all the wrong signals appear at a first date.
  None of them is worth the time? What makes them wrong? A relationship requires commitment from both parties. If he is not paying enough attention, you are right to complain. But how long did you date these men before you decide that they are not good enough?
  Admittedly, you do not have to go out for a long time before you can tell who can be caring and a real pain.  Little acts of his will tell if he is a considerate lover or one who is out to give you stress. 
  Many women meet men like these at some point, but leave before damage is done. As a guide to dating eligible men, look for signs that he will be a mature man you can depend on as a friend.
  He will be courteous to you on a first date. He will show an interest in you as a person first and later perhaps a woman.
  A man who you date should be fascinated with you and his behaviour will show an interest to know you more.
  Or do you complain about roles he is expected to play as the man? Is it the financial aspect of him? Women these days complain about spouses who cannot even change electricity bulb; guys who do not want to leave their beds to work, but want hot meals ready.
  However, you may also consider that you feel disappointed because you want too much.
  So, because you have waited, you think all the ones you have met are below the righteous you?
  But how do you behave to them? You dress to the nine, it does not matter that you are going to the beach. Naturally, you could not be part of the fun, because you would get wet.
  The next outing, therefore, you warn him that you are not a water babe and would not expect to go to the beach. You add that you would not expect to sit around watching, while sand and salt-water blow into your face.
  Specifically, you demand for a dinner date. At the end, you complain about the low standard. For good measure, you sulk that it has to be this particular hotel or you are not going anywhere.
  The “big girl,” as your friends call you, always makes demands on your guys, “just to prove his love,” you say, warning that he is not in love if he spends time away from you.
  You want him to tell you that he loves you every moment. Otherwise, the relationship is not real.
  Within three months of meeting, you not only have dreamt about walking down the altar with him, but you also tell him in detail what plans you are making for the wedding.
  You end every relationship not because your potential dates have come out to say they are not interested anymore, everyone of them have told you that they love you; the last one told you to take things slowly and allow him to catch up with you. So, you ended it.
  It must be said that you are lucky to be the one that calls it quit, but it is because you are loyal to your partners.
  You are demanding, so as you think they are not up to expectations. They also think you smolder your men by wanting attention all the time.
  However, you are right about being with the wrong men. Continue the search. Look for someone who accepts you for who you are. Many men like a pushy woman who puts them on their toes.
  And the right man is the one who knows that you get back what you put into a relationship. He loves you as much as you love him.
  He may not stay with you 24 hours, but he knows how to explain his actions, so that you understand. He knows that if his woman is happy, he is happy too.
  Look out for that man who feels needed by a woman. It may be difficult to live with a woman who says what happens at home all the time, but show him your feminine side and he will be happy that you need him.
  Play the submissive wife occasionally.