BBNaija Finalist

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Photos of BBNaija 5 finalists and their celebrity lookalikes

These are the five finalists of the Big Brother Naija reality show and their celebrity lookalikes......Whats your take on this???

BBNaija Finalist

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Photos of BBNaija 5 finalists and their celebrity lookalikes

These are the five finalists of the Big Brother Naija reality show and their celebrity lookalikes......Whats your take on this???

BBNaijas fan met TBoss check out

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No be small thing...

BBNaijas fan met TBoss check out

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No be small thing...

Chika ike really on Money oh

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Wow, that's a lot of money right there. I have a few of those so I know how much they cost, so let's calculate. The Louis Vuittons are about $4,200 each, the blue LV in the middle is about $3,100. The Chanel bag is probably between $5,000 to $6,000. I'm not sure what the make of the yellow bag is. And the shoes...Chika Ike is balling!

Chika ike really on Money oh

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Wow, that's a lot of money right there. I have a few of those so I know how much they cost, so let's calculate. The Louis Vuittons are about $4,200 each, the blue LV in the middle is about $3,100. The Chanel bag is probably between $5,000 to $6,000. I'm not sure what the make of the yellow bag is. And the shoes...Chika Ike is balling!

The Poodle

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The Poodle, though often equated to the beauty with no brains, is exceptionally smart, active and excels in obedience training. The breed comes in three size varieties, which may contribute to why Poodle is one of the most popular breeds according to AKC®
Registration statistics. Poodles can be a variety of solid colors, including white, black, apricot and gray, but never parti-colored.

Is the Poodle the Right Breed for you?

• High Maintenance: Grooming should be performed often to keep the dog's coat in good shape. Professional trimming or stripping needed.
• Minimal Shedding: Recommended for owners who do not want to deal with hair in their cars and homes.
• Easy Training: The Poodle is known to listen to commands and obey its owner. Expect fewer repetitions when training this breed.
• Great Watchdog Ability: This dog will bark and alert its owners when an intruder is present. It exhibits very protective behavior, acts fearless toward any aggressor, and will do what it takes to guard and protect its family.
• Medium Adaptability: It needs regular exercise for apartment living and is best with a small to average-size yard. This breed is able to handle most types of hot and cold weather.
• Very Active: It will need daily exercise to maintain its shape. Committed and active owners will enjoy performing fitness activities with this breed.
• Good for New Owners: This breed is well suited for those who have little experience with dog ownership.
• Good with Kids: This is a suitable breed for kids and is known to be playful, energetic, and affectionate around them.

The Poodle

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The Poodle, though often equated to the beauty with no brains, is exceptionally smart, active and excels in obedience training. The breed comes in three size varieties, which may contribute to why Poodle is one of the most popular breeds according to AKC®

Janet Jackson now a Single mother

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Janet Jackson has split from her multi-millionaire husband, Qatari business Tycoon, Wissam Al Mana, just months after giving birth to her first child at the age of 50, Daily Mail reports. Janet Jackson wed her husband in 2012 in a grand style, but quiet wedding and in Jan 2017, their first child, Eissa, a son, was born.
There were rumours of a split within days of her son’s birth, when she was seen in public without a wedding ring but it was dismissed as just a rumour.

According to Daily Mail, a source close to the Pop star, revealed Friday night:

‘Sadly, Janet and Wissam found out the marriage wasnt working for them and they happen to be too busy always.They wanted to be parents anyways.

Last week, a leading entertainment website claimed her soon-to-be  ex-husband, Al Mana had helped Jackson settle down as she traded fame for a role as a devoted mother and wife.

Divorce settlement could be complex and costly as 42-year-old Al Mana, CEO of the multinational Al Mana business conglomerate, is estimated to have a fortune of around £800million – at least four times Ms Jackson’s net worth.

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Janet Jackson now a Single mother

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Janet Jackson has split from her multi-millionaire husband, Qatari business Tycoon, Wissam Al Mana, just months after giving birth to her first child at the age of 50, Daily Mail reports. Janet Jackson wed her husband in 2012 in a grand style, but quiet wedding and in Jan 2017, their first child, Eissa, a son, was born.
There were rumours of a split within days of her son’s birth, when she was seen in public without a wedding ring but it was dismissed as just a rumour.

According to Daily Mail, a source close to the Pop star, revealed Friday night:

Building your Self confidence

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Preparing Yourself for Success!

Learn how to become more self-confident, with this video.

From the quietly confident doctor whose advice we rely on, to the charismatic confidence of an inspiring speaker, self-confident people have qualities that everyone admires.
Self-confidence is extremely important in almost every aspect of our lives, yet so many people struggle to find it. Sadly, this can be a vicious circle: people who lack self-confidence can find it difficult to become successful.
After all, most people are reluctant to back a project that's being pitched by someone who was nervous, fumbling, and overly apologetic.
On the other hand, you might be persuaded by someone who speaks clearly, who holds his or her head high, who answers questions assuredly, and who readily admits when he or she does not know something.
Confident people inspire confidence in others: their audience, their peers, their bosses, their customers, and their friends. And gaining the confidence of others is one of the key ways in which a self-confident person finds success.
The good news is that self-confidence really can be learned and built on. And, whether you’re working on your own confidence or building the confidence of people around you, it’s well-worth the effort!

How Confident do you Seem to Others?

Your level of self-confidence can show in many ways: your behavior, your body language, how you speak, what you say, and so on. Look at the following comparisons of common confident behavior with behavior associated with low self-confidence. Which thoughts or actions do you recognize in yourself and people around you?

Confident Behavior	Behavior Associated With low Self-Confidence
Doing what you believe to be right, even if others mock or criticize you for it.	Governing your behavior based on what other people think.
Being willing to take risks and go the extra mile to achieve better things.	Staying in your comfort zone, fearing failure, and so avoid taking risks.
Admitting your mistakes, and learning from them.	Working hard to cover up mistakes and hoping that you can fix the problem before anyone notices.
Waiting for others to congratulate you on your accomplishments.	Extolling your own virtues as often as possible to as many people as possible.
Accepting compliments graciously. “Thanks, I really worked hard on that prospectus. I’m pleased you recognize my efforts.”	Dismissing compliments offhandedly. “Oh that prospectus was nothing really, anyone could have done it.”

As you can see from these examples, low self-confidence can be self-destructive, and it often manifests itself as negativity. Confident people are generally more positive – they believe in themselves and their abilities, and they also believe in living life to the full.

What is Self-Confidence?

Two main things contribute to self-confidence: self-efficacy and self-esteem.
We gain a sense of self-efficacy when we see ourselves (and others similar to ourselves) mastering skills and achieving goals that matter in those skill areas. This is the confidence that, if we learn and work hard in a particular area, we'll succeed; and it's this type of confidence that leads people to accept difficult challenges, and persist i

This overlaps with the idea of self-esteem , which is a more general sense that we can cope with what's going on in our lives, and that we have a right to be happy. Partly, this comes from a feeling that the people around us approve of us, which we may or may not be able to control. However, it also comes from the sense that we are behaving virtuously, that we're competent at what we do, and that we can compete successfully when we put our minds to it.
Some people believe that self-confidence can be built with affirmations and positive thinking . At Mind Tools, we believe that there's some truth in this, but that it's just as important to build self-confidence by setting and achieving goals – thereby building competence. Without this underlying competence, you don't have self-confidence: you have shallow over-confidence, with all of the issues, upset and failure that this brings.

Building Self-Confidence

So how do you build this sense of balanced self-confidence, founded on a firm appreciation of reality?
The bad news is that there’s no quick fix, or five-minute solution.
The good news is that becoming more confident is readily achievable, just as long as you have the focus and determination to carry things through. And what’s even better is that the things you’ll do to build your self-confidence will also build success – after all, your confidence will come from real, solid achievement. No-one can take this away from you!
So here are our three steps to self-confidence, for which we’ll use the metaphor of a journey: preparing for your journey; setting out; and accelerating towards success.

Step 1: Preparing for Your Journey

The first step involves getting yourself ready for your journey to self-confidence. You need to take stock of where you are, think about where you want to go, get yourself in the right mindset for your journey, and commit yourself to starting it and staying with it.
In preparing for your journey, do these five things:

Look at What You've Already Achieved

Think about your life so far, and list the ten best things you've achieved in an "Achievement Log." Perhaps you came top in an important test or exam, played a key role in an important team, produced the best sales figures in a period, did something that made a key difference in someone else’s life, or delivered a project that meant a lot for your business.
Put these into a smartly formatted document, which you can look at often. And then spend a few minutes each week enjoying the success you’ve already had!

Think About Your Strengths

Next, use a technique like SWOT Analysis to take a look at who and where you are. Looking at your Achievement Log, and reflecting on your recent life, think about what your friends would consider to be your strengths and weaknesses. From these, think about the opportunities and threats you face.
Make sure that you enjoy a few minutes reflecting on your strengths!

Think About What's Important to You, and Where you Want to Go

Next, think about the things that are really important to you, and what you want to achieve with your life.
Setting and achieving goals is a key part of this, and real confidence comes from this. Goal setting is the process you use to set yourself targets, and measure your successful hitting of those targets. See our article on goal setting to find out how to use this important technique, or use our Life Plan Workbook to think through your own goals in detail (see the "Tip" below).
Inform your goal setting with your SWOT Analysis. Set goals that exploit your strengths, minimize your weaknesses, realize your opportunities, and control the threats you face.
And having set the major goals in your life, identify the first step in each. Make sure it’s a very small step, perhaps taking no more than an hour to complete!

Start Managing Your Mind

At this stage, you need to start managing your mind. Learn to pick up and defeat the negative self-talk which can destroy your confidence. See our article on rational positive thinking to find out how to do this.
Further useful reading includes our article on imagery – this teaches you how to use and create strong mental images of what you'll feel and experience as you achieve your major goals – there’s something about doing this that makes even major goals seem achievable!

And Then Commit Yourself to Success!

The final part of preparing for the journey is to make a clear and unequivocal promise to yourself that you are absolutely committed to your journey, and that you will do all in your power to achieve it.
If as you’re doing it, you find doubts starting to surface, write them down and challenge them calmly and rationally. If they dissolve under scrutiny, that’s great. However if they are based on genuine risks, make sure you set additional goals to manage these appropriately. For help with evaluating and managing the risks you face, read our Risk Analysis and Management article.
Either way, make that promise!

Tip:

Self-confidence is about balance. At one extreme, we have people with low self-confidence. At the other end, we have people who may be over-confident.
If you are under-confident, you’ll avoid taking risks and stretching yourself; and you might not try at all. And if you’re over-confident, you may take on too much risk, stretch yourself beyond your capabilities, and crash badly. You may also find that you’re so optimistic that you don’t try hard enough to truly succeed.
Getting this right is a matter of having the right amount of confidence, founded in reality and on your true ability. With the right amount of self-confidence, you will take informed risks, stretch yourself (but not beyond your abilities) and try hard.
So how self confident are you? Take our short quiz to find out how self-confident you are already, and start looking at specific strategies to improve your confidence level.

Step 2: Setting Out

This is where you start, ever so slowly, moving towards your goal. By doing the right things, and starting with small, easy wins, you’ll put yourself on the path to success – and start building the self-confidence that comes with this.

Build the Knowledge you Need to Succeed

Looking at your goals, identify the skills you’ll need to achieve them. And then look at how you can acquire these skills confidently and well. Don’t just accept a sketchy, just-good-enough solution – look for a solution, a program or a course that fully equips you to achieve what you want to achieve and, ideally, gives you a certificate or qualification you can be proud of.

Focus on the Basics

When you’re starting, don’t try to do anything clever or elaborate. And don’t reach for perfection – just enjoy doing simple things successfully and well.

Set Small Goals, and Achieve Them

Starting with the very small goals you identified in step 1, get in the habit of setting them, achieving them, and celebrating that achievement. Don’t make goals particularly challenging at this stage, just get into the habit of achieving them and celebrating them. And, little by little, start piling up the successes!

Keep Managing Your Mind

Stay on top of that positive thinking, keep celebrating and enjoying success, and keep those mental images strong. You can also use a technique like Treasure Mapping to make your visualizations even stronger!
And on the other side, learn to handle failure. Accept that mistakes happen when you’re trying something new. In fact, if you get into the habit of treating mistakes as learning experiences, you can (almost) start to see them in a positive light. After all, there’s a lot to be said for the saying “if it doesn’t kill you, it makes you stronger!”

Step 3: Accelerating Towards Success

By this stage, you’ll feel your self-confidence building. You’ll have completed some of the courses you started in step 2, and you’ll have plenty of success to celebrate!
This is the time to start stretching yourself. Make the goals a bit bigger, and the challenges a bit tougher. Increase the size of your commitment. And extend the skills you’ve proven into new, but closely related arenas.

Tip 1:

Keep yourself grounded – this is where people tend to get over-confident and over-stretch themselves. And make sure you don’t start enjoying cleverness for its own sake…

Tip 2:

If you haven't already looked at it, use our How Self Confident Are You? quiz to find out how self-confident you are, and to identify specific strategies for building self-confidence.

As long as you keep on stretching yourself enough, but not too much, you'll find your self-confidence building apace. What's more, you'll have earned your self-confidence – because you’ll have put in the hard graft necessary to be successful!
Goal setting is arguably the most important skill you can learn to improve your self-confidence. If you haven't already read and applied our goal setting article, you can read it here .

Key Points

Self-confidence is extremely important in almost every aspect of our lives, and people who lack it can find it difficult to become successful.
Two main things contribute to self-confidence: self-efficacy and self-esteem. You can develop it with these three steps:

1. Prepare for your journey.
2. Set out on your journey.
3. Accelerate towards success.

Goal setting is probably the most important activity that you can learn in order to improve your self-confidence.

This site teaches you the skills you need for a happy and successful career; and this is just one of many tools and resources that you'll find here at Mind Tools.

Building your Self confidence

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Preparing Yourself for Success!

Learn how to become more self-confident, with this video.

From the quietly confident doctor whose advice we rely on, to the charismatic confidence of an inspiring speaker, self-confident people have qualities that everyone admires.
Self-confidence is extremely important in almost every aspect of our lives, yet so many people struggle to find it. Sadly, this can be a vicious circle: people who lack self-confidence can find it difficult to become successful.
After all, most people are reluctant to back a project that's being pitched by someone who was nervous, fumbling, and overly apologetic.
On the other hand, you might be persuaded by someone who speaks clearly, who holds his or her head high, who answers questions assuredly, and who readily admits when he or she does not know something.
Confident people inspire confidence in others: their audience, their peers, their bosses, their customers, and their friends. And gaining the confidence of others is one of the key ways in which a self-confident person finds success.
The good news is that self-confidence really can be learned and built on. And, whether you’re working on your own confidence or building the confidence of people around you, it’s well-worth the effort!

How Confident do you Seem to Others?

Your level of self-confidence can show in many ways: your behavior, your body language, how you speak, what you say, and so on. Look at the following comparisons of common confident behavior with behavior associated with low self-confidence. Which thoughts or actions do you recognize in yourself and people around you?

Confident Behavior	Behavior Associated With low Self-Confidence
Doing what you believe to be right, even if others mock or criticize you for it.	Governing your behavior based on what other people think.
Being willing to take risks and go the extra mile to achieve better things.	Staying in your comfort zone, fearing failure, and so avoid taking risks.
Admitting your mistakes, and learning from them.	Working hard to cover up mistakes and hoping that you can fix the problem before anyone notices.
Waiting for others to congratulate you on your accomplishments.	Extolling your own virtues as often as possible to as many people as possible.
Accepting compliments graciously. “Thanks, I really worked hard on that prospectus. I’m pleased you recognize my efforts.”	Dismissing compliments offhandedly. “Oh that prospectus was nothing really, anyone could have done it.”

As you can see from these examples, low self-confidence can be self-destructive, and it often manifests itself as negativity. Confident people are generally more positive – they believe in themselves and their abilities, and they also believe in living life to the full.

What is Self-Confidence?

Two main things contribute to self-confidence: self-efficacy and self-esteem.
We gain a sense of self-efficacy when we see ourselves (and others similar to ourselves) mastering skills and achieving goals that matter in those skill areas. This is the confidence that, if we learn and work hard in a particular area, we'll succeed; and it's this type of confidence that leads people to accept difficult challenges, and persist i

This overlaps with the idea of self-esteem , which is a more general sense that we can cope with what's going on in our lives, and that we have a right to be happy. Partly, this comes from a feeling that the people around us approve of us, which we may or may not be able to control. However, it also comes from the sense that we are behaving virtuously, that we're competent at what we do, and that we can compete successfully when we put our minds to it.
Some people believe that self-confidence can be built with affirmations and positive thinking . At Mind Tools, we believe that there's some truth in this, but that it's just as important to build self-confidence by setting and achieving goals – thereby building competence. Without this underlying competence, you don't have self-confidence: you have shallow over-confidence, with all of the issues, upset and failure that this brings.

Making introduction to the woman of your dreams

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The way you introduce yourself to a girl can go a long way in determining how she perceives you and if she will agree to a relationship with you.
Of course, you can come back and make a good second impression but it is always way easier with making a good first impression. Making a good first impression will not only make you look like someone every girl will be lucky to meet but you’d also exude charm and confidence.
Why Should You Make A Good first Impression?
People and women in particular can tell within the first minute of meeting you if they want to have a deeper relationship with you. What this means is that you have about a minute to make a woman decide if you’re worth spending time with.So you have to do your best to really impress her that instance and believe you me you will win a place in her heart.
Introducing Yourself To A Girl You’re Attracted To
It is difficult to know exactly what a woman wants because they are mostly picky. The good part of this however is that women know almost immediately if they are interested in you or not. If you seem weird to them by the way you approach them, that may be the end of it.
Be Confident
Confidence is the first most important key. If you’re able to walk up to a woman and confidently introduce yourself to her, you’ve pretty much covered half of it. Every woman wants a confident man and the moment you seem like one, she will be interested.
Showing that you’re nervous when you walk up to her will only give you up as an uninteresting person. Walk up to her with confidence and she will want to have some of it.
Engage Her Mind
Women want men that can make them think. If you walk up to her and strike up a conversation with her in a way and manner that will make her question herself, you’re definitely on the right track. One trick that can help you is overhearing a topic that you’re familiar with and giving her an opinion from a different angle. Walk away the minute you do this and you’d strike a chord in her mind.
Discover A Common Interest
Determining a common interest is probably the best way to introduce yourself to a woman. Show her you share something in common and her mind will probably wonder what else the two of you share in common. This is by far one of the best ways to introduce yourself to a girl. It basically starts off your first impression by showing her you already have something in common. It’ll make her wonder what else you two have in common.
Look for clues such as a book she’s reading and tell her you’ve read it before and ask for her opinion. You definitely have to be honest with it of course.

Walk Away Without Telling Her Your Name
While you may think doing this defeats the purpose of introducing yourself to her, but the truth is it works. If you make small conversation with a woman you approached and walk away without introducing yourself, she’s going to want to know more about you.
Avoid Using A Pick-up Line
Using a pick-up line on a woman you’re interested in may most likely make her laugh and turn away from you. This is because they don’t make good first impressions as they have little or nothing to do with what you think about her. Avoid using them whenever possible.
Be Patient
It sometimes take women a while for them to realise that they are interested in talking to you. If you try introducing yourself and she doesn’t seem interested, walk away and exercise some patience. You might be surprised to find a Facebook message later on which is an indication that she has been thinking about you.
Be Honest
If all your subtle moves fail, being out rightly honest won’t fail you. You can simply walk up to her and tell her in plain words how you feel. Something like ” I know you’d find this weird, but I couldn’t help staring at you and I thought I’d come over to introduce myself. My name is…”
The reason why this technique is a good one is because it allows her see how honest you are. Even though it is quite risky, it can certainly pay well.

Making introduction to the woman of your dreams

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The way you introduce yourself to a girl can go a long way in determining how she perceives you and if she will agree to a relationship with you.
Of course, you can come back and make a good second impression but it is always way easier with making a good first impression. Making a good first impression will not only make you look like someone every girl will be lucky to meet but you’d also exude charm and confidence.
Why Should You Make A Good first Impression?
People and women in particular can tell within the first minute of meeting you if they want to have a deeper relationship with you. What this means is that you have about a minute to make a woman decide if you’re worth spending time with.So you have to do your best to really impress her that instance and believe you me you will win a place in her heart.
Introducing Yourself To A Girl You’re Attracted To
It is difficult to know exactly what a woman wants because they are mostly picky. The good part of this however is that women know almost immediately if they are interested in you or not. If you seem weird to them by the way you approach them, that may be the end of it.
Be Confident
Confidence is the first most important key. If you’re able to walk up to a woman and confidently introduce yourself to her, you’ve pretty much covered half of it. Every woman wants a confident man and the moment you seem like one, she will be interested.
Showing that you’re nervous when you walk up to her will only give you up as an uninteresting person. Walk up to her with confidence and she will want to have some of it.
Engage Her Mind
Women want men that can make them think. If you walk up to her and strike up a conversation with her in a way and manner that will make her question herself, you’re definitely on the right track. One trick that can help you is overhearing a topic that you’re familiar with and giving her an opinion from a different angle. Walk away the minute you do this and you’d strike a chord in her mind.
Discover A Common Interest
Determining a common interest is probably the best way to introduce yourself to a woman. Show her you share something in common and her mind will probably wonder what else the two of you share in common. This is by far one of the best ways to introduce yourself to a girl. It basically starts off your first impression by showing her you already have something in common. It’ll make her wonder what else you two have in common.
Look for clues such as a book she’s reading and tell her you’ve read it before and ask for her opinion. You definitely have to be honest with it of course.

Lieing to ones partner

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One thing we all know and agree is that honesty is key to any healthy relationship. As a matter of fact, a lot of people value honesty above other factors such as sexual attraction, communication and commitment according to a survey conducted in the United Kingdom.
But it appears that there are times when being a little dishonesty can be good for the relationship. Even though it’s not recommended to lie to your partner, there are situations where leaving out some details can do you and your relationship a lot of good.

Here are five common lies you’d most likely have committed in your relationship and why you may want to leave out some details for the overall benefit of everyone.
How Attracted You Are To Someone Else
Telling your partner the truth about your attraction to someone can cause you potential losses instead of gains. If you think your partner to be someone that is overly jealous. You may want to keep your attraction to a colleague or acquaintance away from them.
If your feelings are however intense and you think it has the potential of jeopardizing your relationship, you may want to discuss it with your partner especially if you’re keen on remaining in your present relationship.
Your Location
If you tell your partner you’re traveling for a job or to see your parents, it had better be so except you’re willing to call it quits.
It is even more damaging if you wake up in the morning and leave the house everyday under the pretense of going to work when you’ve been laid off as this will most likely damage any trust they have in you.
It is however totally acceptable to lie to them regarding your location if you’re planning a surprise for them such as on their birthday or anniversary.
Your Finances
Lying about your finances may be dependent on the situation you find yourself. Withholding details of how much you earn or if you spent higher than you initially budgeted for a particular thing is very much different from refusing to tell your partner you’re neck deep in debt.
The best thing to do is to ask yourself if your lie will have a significant impact on your relationship.
Being upfront about your finances is the way to go if you both have a joint account. If you however operate separate accounts, withholding some details can be acceptable, especially if your other half appears to be a spendthrift.
Your Past Dates
If your partner asks you certain questions regarding your past relationships such as how your previous partner acted in bed or how they compare with them in bed, it’s totally acceptable to leave out any details you feel will make them uncomfortable.It’s better to stick to generalities and leave out the intricate details.
The questions to ask yourself is how relevant will the information be to them and if your answers will potentially cause a rift or cause a distance between the both of you in your current relationship. If your answers are positive, then go on and lie about it.
Infidelity
In truth, you won’t be doing yourself or your partner a favour by keeping your infidelity a secret even if it happened just once as it still has the potential to damage your relationship.
Cheating is always tricky because it always puts the relationship at stake because you would have betrayed the trust of your spouse in addition to putting their health at risk.
It’s however acceptable to admit to cheating without going into the intricate details that made you do so because doing so may send the wrong message to your partner which may ultimately lead to the end of the relationship.
Details such as when and where you had sex will not be helpful and it’s usually best you lie about such when asked. Instead, have a conversation that will be focused on making your partner understand why you were unfaithful and the impact it will have on your relationship.